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Managing expectations.........

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What do you expect out of life? We often get the things we expect! I was reminded of that in a homily of one of the priests in my local church. The saying goes "life is what you make it" and though some people are born with certain privileges that others do not have, it is very true!



If you have low expectations, you will not succeed in life. Many of the people we idolize in society, the so called wealthy people started from very humble beginnings. Some of them never even finished school and were written off as rejects. Do not pay too much attention to people who try to bring you down. Everyone has their own strengths in life as much as they have their weaknesses. Focus on your strengths and persevere no matter what and you will succeed!


Someone once sent me a message that was asking us to ponder on the word breakthrough! Before you achieve something, you have to break through the barrier! No one has it easy, don't waste your time trying to live your life as a version of…

Grieving........

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Everyone has to deal with loss in their lives at some point. Life and death co-exist and we have to accept that death will eventually come for us all! I have been dealing with the loss of my father who died early last month and the pain is still fresh, though its getting better day by day. Time does indeed heal all wounds!


You never really know what to say to people when they are grieving. I know i didn't before but i can tell you that it makes a difference when people say a comforting word and make an effort to be there for you. It goes a long way and our friends and relatives have supported us during this difficult time and made the pain easier to bear. We will be forever grateful to them.


The most crucial thing though has been the faith that we have in God and the hope that dad is or will one day soon be with God and that we will see him one day in paradise! God always remembers his children and towards the end, he had such faith, such beautiful faith and it brings us the great…

Lord, only say a word.....

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Last week on Monday, my father had a bad fall at home and injured his spine! My first thought was how did this happen? Was he climbing and fell from a high place? It turns out, he missed some steps and that's how he ended up in the hospital. He will require surgery and the recovery period according to doctors is "unknown".



This trial is testing my patience in a big way! I have been so stressed since his accident. I keep thinking what if this and that but worry doesn't help! I am choosing to let go and let God! This is the time when our faith in God is tested and trials will always come. It is our choice whether they will make us bitter or better!



We don't often want to hear it especially in such situations but everything does happen for a reason. This trial has definitely brought our family together and is teaching us patience and the value of living by faith! God will see us through this no matter what happens. Only we need now is to pray and hope!

"Lord i …

Mea culpa....

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I am still in shock concerning the ill fated Ethiopian flight from Addis Ababa to Nairobi that crashed last Sunday shortly after take off. Air travel is currently considered the safest form of travel but accidents do happen! However two crashes within 6 months involving the same plane model raises questions (and eyebrows).

My condolences to the families, friends and coworkers of all the deceased crew members and passengers! I cannot imagine what they are going through right now and having to bury empty coffins is simply heartbreaking. Our thoughts and prayers are with you all at this difficult time. May the good Lord grant you comfort and may their souls through the mercy of God rest in peace!


I have been reading about the crash extensively and while we cannot judge exactly what happened since the investigation is ongoing, i am appalled by the first reactions of Boeing, the FAA and the American carriers to this tragedy. They seemed nonchalant in stating that the Boeing 737 Max 8 is sa…

Is Feminism really pro-woman?

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Let us take a moment to think about whether feminism especially the radicalized kind is truly about helping women! In our times feminism has risen with the supposed goal of uplifting women's status in society and ensuring that women's rights are protected. However i am left to wonder what the true agenda of feminists really is!


We have lived in a patriarchal society for a very long time. Yes, it is true that the male gender was given so much more priority over the female gender and still is in some societies and countries. I stand firmly against discrimination and it was and is wrong to value one sex above the other. Radical feminists do not realize that they are doing the same thing now. They are trying to put the value of women above the value of men and thus the scale of gender equality will not be balanced!



I have been reading theology of the body by St. John Paul II and i must say it is a true eye opener! It makes us come to the realization that man was created, both male…

Where are you?

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Today is ash Wednesday, the beginning of Lent. Lent is meant to be a time of renewal, a time to return back to God! As the priest blesses your head, he says the words ""You are dust and to dust you shall return". Human beings need to be reminded of our own mortality as we often live our lives as if we were meant to be on the earth forever. We forget that our lives here are only a temporary journey to our final destination which is eternity. Our lives here will determine our state in eternity!


On Monday, in the homily of one of the priests in my local church, he exhorted us to look deep into our inner selves and make an evaluation of our lives. He used the example of the late celebrity, Michael Jackson who died from an overdose of sleep medication. He was wealthy and surrounded by seemingly "adoring" fans but couldn't sleep. There are so many things we take for granted but how many people are struggling to find the joy in simple things? We spend most of our…

Exercising your faith...........

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Yesterday, i was reminded in the homily of a priest in my local church about the value of faith! He demonstrated it with a simple example about how people build their muscles when they go to the gym! If you do not use what you have, you will lose it!


Jesus says, "all things are possible for him who believes". In yesterday's Gospel reading, a man has a child afflicted with a deaf and mute demon. This demon has tormented him since childhood and he comes to the lord with faith. But he also responds, "I believe Lord , help my unbelief". I know how hard it can be to live by faith especially when you are faced with terrible odds!


All of us have situations in our lives that test us to our core! I know i do and many times i have thought why me? As my priest reminded me, i am not the first one to go through what i am going through and i need not project other people's situations and let anxiety get the best of me. I need not compare my life to anyone else because ev…

The ripple effect of bad choices and decisions.........

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On Monday, i was reminded of the consequences of our actions by the homily of the priest in my local church! He told us about the story of a woman who abandoned her children to pursue a new relationship with a man who didn't want children. She is now living a life of regret! How terrible it is to live a life always looking back and wishing we could change the past!


The hard truth is that our choices and decisions especially as leaders, elders and parents affect a lot of people. We often do not realize that because every one depends on someone else whether we like to admit it or not, the consequences will reach much further than we thought! Lets take the example of political leaders and families. The actions especially of leaders will definitely have lasting consequences on the people they serve. When a leader serves himself, no one in society will benefit. His selfish actions will lead to poverty, hunger and a basic lack of necessities as we see all too often here in Africa!(somet…

The spirt of Anger!

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Beware of the spirit of anger and mindless rage! We ought to think before we act in anger as the consequences of such actions are often dire and cannot be overturned! Sometimes we are unnecessarily irritable and lash out at others due to no fault of their own or as a means of getting rid of stress!



This is very wrong indeed. Last week i observed it in a close relation of mine as he was driving. He struggles with anger and i pray that God will give him serenity and peace in his heart! How many terrible things have been done just in a fit of anger? Sometimes even to the extent of taking someone's life!



When you are angry, you cannot think clearly and often regret will follow your actions! Let us learn how to pause and walk away from confrontation. Lets also try to hold our tongues and be silent when we feel enraged by someone. If you cannot say something good, its best not to say anything at all! No one should be self righteous in regards to anger, only God has that right.

The lord …

Drunk with the blood of innocents.........

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Recently, New York's "catholic" governor (Andrew Cuomo) approved a law that will effectively permit abortions right up to the moment of birth for basically any number of reasons! It was a sad day indeed for America, the world and indeed all Catholics. I just cannot understand how someone can claim to be Catholic and go against one of the most important principles of the church which is that all life is sacred!


His actions have spoken louder than his weak proclamations of being a catholic! When i think about the circumstances of Roe vs wade i shudder! I am not very familiar with the case but i read a summary that says the woman represented in the case , Norma McCovey as Jane Roe had actually lied about being raped in order to procure an abortion in Texas! The supreme court sided with her and voted in January 1972 to deem abortion a constitutional right in the United states! (sigh)

Planned parenthood was recently involved in a scandal selling aborted body parts and yet the…

The right attitude and disposition for grace.............

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Its a new year again and with it always a time for change. Recently in one of the homilies of a priest, we were reminded of the need for a change in attitude in order to be disposed to receive grace and to effect change in our lives. People always make resolutions but hardly ever follow through with them!


If you want to change something in life, you need perspective. Sometimes its your attitude getting in the way of what you want to achieve. Take for example, a promotion at work. You may want to be promoted but are exhibiting a "lazy" attitude. (lets say you are usually late and leave early or want to do the least amount of work). Another area is your disposition for grace. Lets say you want to get married but cannot commit to one person! How will you achieve anything if you do not change your attitude or disposition?


Lord, give us the grace to see clearly our weaknesses and be ready to change our attitudes so that we can be properly disposed to receive your graces in our li…

Humanae vitae and the sexual revolution!

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In July 1968, Pope Paul VI wrote the encyclical humane vitae to guide all Catholics and the world indeed on the dangers of full scale artificial contraception for the regulation of births! As predicted in his letter, the widespread acceptance of oral/artificial contraception has resulted into immorality,the objectification of women, the abuse of power (In Kenya, certain free contraceptives were discovered to have permanently sterilized women) and a false sense of independence!

God in his perfect design, intended the union of man and woman in marriage to be open to life as the two generate the body and God generates the immortal soul! Any attempts to circumvent and alter this is a gross injustice and a rejection of the divine will. Arguments that artificial birth control help with population control and planning are simply excuses to be promiscuous! The body has a natural fertility cycle and sex can be abstained from during the fertile period if we wish to avoid pregnancy!


Just look at…

A resolve to be Kind.........

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It is a new year once again and time to make resolutions! More often than not, we make resolutions but never follow through with them. It is a shame indeed but this year i am resolved to be kind! How do we respond to the people we encounter even when they rub us the wrong way?


Honestly sometimes i just get irritated by people. It may be even people i dont know but i just get the feeling that our personalities dont mesh! It may also be that certain things people do make as feel irritated. I was once called abrasive by someone i had been chatting with online (sigh)


We dont have to get close to everyone we meet but we can make an effort to be kind! There are some people who are lonely, in need of some comfort. Lets start by smiling more and greeting strangers. I know in the world we live in, some people try to take advantage of kindness but dont let that change you! There always people around us who need our love and kindness. "Dont let the bitterness of the world take away your swe…