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learning to make concessions.....

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You cannot be right all the time and everyone has a right to have his or her own view about something. Granted , sometimes peoples views and behavior is difficult to accept but you cannot understand someone untill you see things from his perspective.


Sometimes you may even be right but to avoid unecessary conflicts, let it go. Do not try to convince the other party that they are wrong. It is necessary to have a firm stand on certain things like what you believe in but you cannot force everyone to follow your belief. Let's take  the example of Religious beliefs. Some people were born into a certain faith and it has been solidified as they grew up. While i think people need to choose their own path as they grow older, i cannot judge someone based on their beliefs. I cannot say that i am right in my faith and they are wrong in theirs!


People may dislike you based on your beliefs but it doesnt matter, let them. Go on with your life. Do not lose sleep over what people may or may not th…

By the Grace of God....

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On monday night, i was involved in a car accident on my way home from work.(faulty brakes) I was not the one driving and i have to say most likely is the driver's fault for not having the car propoerly checked out! If you are driving a public service , the least you can do is ensure the safety of your passengers!


Honestly,, we need to realize that money isn't worth somebody's life! Anyway, all the passenegers in the car survived with minor injuries and i know it was God's grace that saved us! I am not a good person, we are all human and make mistakes. I dont deserve to live more than anyone else. How many people die in accidents everyday? There is nothing special about me, God's grace was with us even though we did not deserve it.


Life is a gift freely given by God,  we do not deserve his grace! We are all sinners but God is gracious and merciful. Thanks be to God that i am still alive. Sometimes we want so many things and yet we forget that what we already have, w…

When tragedy strikes!

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We are still in the wake of hurricane Harvey that devastated Houston recently. Our thoughts and prayers are with the victims of this disaster. May God be your strength and may he comfort you in your time of distress!


So called natural disasters have been a part of life as long as the world has existed and will probably continue till the world's end. When such disasters strike, we tend to blame God saying how could a God who is good allow such a thing to happen? Some people's faith is often tested and they ask "where is God?"

I often think of Horatio Spafford' s song "it is well with my soul", in such times. I marvel at how a man who lost his children and his business , in a short span of time could be so calm. He had just rcently  lost his first child, when he lost his business in the Chicago fire of 1871. A few years later he lost his daughters in as ship wreck and penned the hymn it is well with my soul.


Life often times throws us into the deep end. …

Happiness can be found in our relationships

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We are always searching for happiness in things and in accomplishments but true happiness can only be found in the way we relate with others. Whether its the co-worker you work beside every day or the people waiting for you at home or even strangers. The way we relate with others will either bring us joy or make us miserable.


Do you ever notice that a smile is contagious? That laughter really keeps you young and vibrant. (its a good thing, you cant laugh by yourself). Look  for the humor in every situation and try to laugh more. Smile at srangers too. Smile at your family and friends. Smile at your co-workers and your bosses!

I know life can be hard for many people and sometimes they think they have no reason to smile! Life is what you make it and if you choose to frown at people and build walls around yourself, you will never be happy. Treat people with dignity and respect and they will respond in the same way. Do not expect that everyone will be kind but take the first step. Reach o…

Rejoice oh highly favored!

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That is the salutation addressed to the blessed virgin at the annunciation of our Lord's birth over 2000 years ago! Today, we celebrate the feast of the assumption, one of the greatest Marian feasts in church history. Hail, full of grace! Ponder on the greeting of arch angel Gabriel to Mary.


Mary is at first startled and unnerved by this greeting. She wonders why she is greeted as the "full of grace". Mary's wonderful humility shines through here. She cannot fathom how she, a mere creature of God,  can be full of grace. But oh, i marvel at her as the angel did. I cannot help but feel such pride for one so gracious as she, she is truly unparelled in all humanity.


Mary's fiat became our salvation. She humbly surrenders her whole being to the will of her God and her King. Do not think she does so lightly. She knows fully well the trials she will endure as mother of the redeemer. She recalls the words of Isaiah about the suffering servant, "he was chastised for …

You are awlays one decision away from where you want to be !

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I was watching a motivational video shared by my friends on social media. A very wise lady i must say was saying that we keep day dreaming and never do anything to make our dreams a reality. I believe her exact words were "we see success stories and think one day while doing nothing, something happened!" Seriously? Has something ever come from nothing? Or young ladies keep hoping  that a rich man will come into their lives suddenly and they will live happily ever after.


Hmmmn....too much time spent day dreaming is bad for you. Her advice is dream with your eyes wide open and make those dreans a reality. I know its not that simple but honestly your decisions in life will define you! Lets try to be realistic while we dream. I do not mean limit your potential but learn to adapt your dreams to life's circumstances. When i was still in high school, i really wanted to be a doctor but my math and physics were abysmal. Chemistry wasnt that great either. I was always much better …

The folly of supremacy!

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Last week, i heard that China is building a transcontinental railway line through eastern Europe and apparently one of the workers on the railway allegedly said that those opposed to the railway should be crushed under the heel of China. China has also apparently been behaving very aggressively with her neighbours in the east. I have also read a speech recently where President Trump is allegedly saying that black people are inferior intellectually to white people. I am not sure if he actually said those words, but i know there are people out there who think and feel that way. They are completely wrong and  i pity them.

If you cannot appreciate the differences that exist between people and instead prefer to spread hatred just because people aren't the same as you, then i think its sad! It makes you a very sad human being indeed! We are all human beings and we all deserve to be treated with the dignity and respect worthy of our race! No one has the right to dominate others and subdu…

Christians as the new Essau

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We have all read the story about Jacob and Essau in the bible. Many of us anyway, depending on whether or not you are a christian. Anyway, long story short, Essau trades his birth right as the elder son to Jacob for a meal! Hmmmm.....his hunger at the time clouded his judgement. I think we can all relate to how our feelings and desires sometimes stop us from thinking clearly.


That being said, he shouldnt have let them go so lightly. Jacob was cunning and shrewd and ended up taking all the blessings from his father. How does this relate to christians today? In the Gospel reading yesterday, Jesus is asked by the jews to perform a sign so that they can believe that he is the Messiah. He told them, no sign will be given to you except the sign of Jonah. He also told them that their generation would be judged by the ninevites, for they had believed jonah and yet God's own son was speaking to them and they hardened their hearts.

Our generation today is being judged by other faiths like t…

The Life of an Apostle!

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The below quote is from first corinthians about what it means to live as an apostle and gives food for thought especially for christians today.

1 Corinthians 4:9-13 I think, God has exhibited us apostles last of all, as men condemned to death; because we have become a spectacle to the world, both to angels and to men.10 We are fools for Christ’s sake, but you are prudent in Christ; we are weak, but you are strong; you are distinguished, but we are without honor. 11 To this present hour we are both hungry and thirsty, and are poorly clothed, and are roughly treated, and are homeless; 12 and we toil, working with our own hands; when we are reviled, we bless; when we are persecuted, we endure; 13 when we are slandered, we try to conciliate; we have become as the scum of the world, the dregs of all things, even until now.
Today the world is filled with so many preachers and churches / christian denominations focused on the so called "prosperity Gospel". They seem to be too cen…

Shades of gray!

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When i was a child, things were much easier! I viewed things with that beautiful innocence that only children posess! People were either good or bad and their actions were other benevolent or malicious. Oh, how i long for those days of past innocence but alas, they are long gone! There is a reason human beings make flawed judgements, its because they are not able to see all the angles! That is why judgement is best reserved for God alone!


Life is in varying shades of gray, not black and white. I still find it difficult sometimes to accept people's actions. Honestly when i think about the people who murder in cold blood, i just cannot understand that! I recall the killing of innocent children in a kindergarten in the united states and i am at a loss for words! How can someone possibly justify that? What was going through their minds? Do they feel like you and me?


A million questions left unanswered! The truth is, we cannot understand all the actions other people do. We cannot know …

Living by faith!

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Abraham was called by God out of his native land to go to a land that the Lord would show him. He didnt know where this land was or what he would find there but he packed up and left at God's command. What great faith! A true inspiration to us all.

In life we often times have to live by faith. Some people do not know when their next meal will be, or where they will sleep for the night but they keep moving. They truly inspire me as i seem to have so much and yet i worry so much. It makes me realize how frivolous i can be!


There is also the temptation to ask where is God when faced with trials. Has he abandoned me? Does he still care for me? We forget all the good things we have been enjoying previously. Life is not a plateau! Its a roller coaster filled with highs and lows! Enjoy and smile  when you are in a happy phase and cry when you get to a sad phase but dont let it dampen your spirits. Even when you are suffering, God still cares for you and your suffering has purpose.


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Choose your battles!

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Yesterday's Gospel reading in church was about Jesus teaching on revenge. Jesus says do not take an eye for an eye. If someone slaps you, turn the other cheek as well! Honeslty as human beings its very difficult to do that but when you sit and reflect for a monent, you will realise the wisdom behind Christ's words.

You do not need to fight every single battle in life! Let God fight for you, he knows best how to fight for you! Sometimes its best to be silent when faced with confrontations. Dont give in to anger when someone hurts or insults you. Our first impulse is usually to lash out. We need to learn how to respond to situations and people not just react blindly. It is how we respond that creates chaos or peace!

Its not worth it being bitter and festering resentment in our hearts over something someone did or didnt do to us. Let it go. You are actually stronger when you do not react in anger. It takes a lot of strength to be the better person and it actually gives the aggres…

The wisdom of silence

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Recently a friend sent me a wise quote on social media. It says :

"Silence is the fence around wisdom!
If your foot slips,
You can always regain your balance..
But if your tongue slips,
You can never recall the words...

Someone once told me that there is a reason God created as with one mouth and two ears. We need to learn to listen more and speak less! There is a famous saying that says "sticks and stones may break my bones but words..." I think it was meant to encourage people not to pay too much attention to what others say about them but words have the power to hurt or heal.


How many careless rumors have ruined people's reputations, relationships, work? That is why we should never indulge in gossip. You do not know all the facts. Mind your own business is a good motto for us! Unecessary curiosity in the affairs of others is a very bad vice. Remeber the saying "curiosity killed the cat!" Let us all try to be watchful of what we say and practice the wisd…

Dont let the bullies win!

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I must say that it is very unfair and truly a disgrace for countries or people to bully others. Here i am speaking of the recent tensions between Qatar and her neighbours especially Saudi Arabia. What was the justification for cutting all relations with Qatar? And why should the others (Egypt, U.A.E, Bahrain) follow Saudi Arabia blindly?


One cruel decision has caused such a mess. People's lives have been ruined. Apparently all Qatari nationals were given a few days to leave Saudi Arabia. Every nation is sovereign and we must respect their independence. That being said, leaders need to understand that their decisions affect a multitude of people. Being a good leader means looking at the ripple effect of your actions and how they will ultimately affect the people under you.

I sympathise with Qatar and its nationals. I say do not let the bullies win, stand your ground and fight the bullies. They will not win. Shame on those who would seek to crush people under the heel of tryanny! Go…

The dignity of a mother!

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I was recently reading an article that had something very disturbing indeed. A "feminist" writer for the daily telegraph wrote that it should be illegal in Australia for mothers to stay at home once their children are old enough to go to school. Apparently, in the name of feminism, she is advocating for gender equality in the work place and thinks too many mothers are staying home instead of going out and getting jobs!

This is very sad indeed and even sadder because its a woman thinking that way. I dont understand why so called "feminists" need to be so aggressive. I know women have been treated unfairly and even cruelly by society in the past and even today but there is no justification for this! Feminists seem to want to keep pushing the line just to get back at society for years of being mistreated.


We cannot change the past, we can only look to the future! A mother's choice to stay home and raise her children must never be taken from her and its her choice.…

The gift of a child!

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Children are gifts from God whether you want to believe it or not! In our day and age today, we like to think we can force God's hand as did Adam when man fell from Grace. There is even apparently research into trying to help transgender people have biological children! How foolish man is in thinking he can do better than his creator!


Some couples try to have children but are not able to in their lifetimes! Some eventually have a child when they least expect it even when modern medicine has written them off! It is only God who in his mercy and infinite wisdom gives you the gift of a child when the time is right. Not before. We have so may fertility doctors and centres these days but we do not know the ugly side behind them?


How much pain the patient goes through? How much exhaustion? And do you know how many embryos are destroyed just to make one child? Is it really worth it? Will you really be happy knowing what you had to sacrifice to have that child? We are turning into monster…

Riding the tide!

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Life is like the tide, sometimes its calm and sometimes its rough. You have to learn how to go with the flow of the tide or you will break! We often do not realize that stress is like a cancer, it eats away at us from the inside and yes, it often causes disease such as high blood pressure.


In the life we live on earth, perpertual bliss is a myth! Let us not deceive oursleves into thinking that wealth, family, a good job, health, beauty, nice things...will make us happy! I am not saying you cannot be happy in this life, i am saying you have to learn to smile through your tears.


Yesterday i was sent an interesting life quote . One of the key points was that some  bad things in life are meant to help you be better. For example , you need people who will disappoint you so you can put all your trust in God. You need people who will say NO to you so you can learn to be independent.


The word breakthrough is interesting and shows you that you have to reach a breaking point and get through it.…

A peaceful disposition comes with meekness!

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Yesterday i was reading an isnspiring spiritual article about how peace is linked to humility. I very much agree with that. In our so called modern world today, everything is geared to a fast pace which tends to cause severe anxiety and stress. No wonder we have so many people with high blood pressure today! Our stress levels keep increasing every passing day!


Another cause of anxiety is that, we as human beings do not want to accept failure as a learning point. I am not refering to the self pity that we want to indulge in. No one should say they are a failure but we should not be so depressed and give up when we fail. To err is human. We are human beings and we make mistakes and we are weak. Yes, accept that when you fall but gather yourself and get back up, Dont stay sprawled on the ground!


This applies especially also to our moral failings. As humans, we are weak and can fall prey to temptations often. We need to recognise our human weakness and lean on God who will give us his str…

Tensions in the East!

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There has been a recent flare up of tensions between the United States and North Korea. North Korea's nuclear ambitions are also causing tension among her immediate neighbors , especailly South Korea whose city of Seoul could be caught in the middle of a war. War is not new and humans have been fighting wars since the dawn of time. However, we seem to have learnt very few lessons from our brutal and bloody past!


How many cruel and harsh realities war brings! Those who have lived through wars must often live with the scars of old wounds that might never truly heal. In times of war, there is even less value placed on human lives and society descends into a chaos. Property is destroyed and progress is set back but oh, how much blood is shed? How many tears are shed? How may sleepless nights and days filled with anxiety?


In my mind, i think North Korea and other nuclear powers display of weaponry seems to boast to another nation , " I can use these weapons to KILL and destroy so …